http://sethigherstandards.com/2009/06/23/difficult-conversations/ Ramblings from a 30-something ultra-marathoning yogi with a day job. Mon, 21 May 2012 00:41:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ http://sethigherstandards.com/2009/06/23/difficult-conversations/#comment-1184 Mon, 29 Jun 2009 05:49:34 +0000 http://www.sethigherstandards.com/?p=894#comment-1184 @ Marcia: Thanks for your comment. I like your statement about having a “dialogue” and that “confronting” maybe not being the best term since that has an adversarial tone. I agree with that.

]]> http://sethigherstandards.com/2009/06/23/difficult-conversations/#comment-1183 Thu, 25 Jun 2009 02:56:05 +0000 http://www.sethigherstandards.com/?p=894#comment-1183 In response to your blog note. I think just the word “confronting” sets up the conversation as adversarial and as such creates a natural resistance. A conversation started this way won’t work. Instead we I think we have to invite people to dialogue. Being able to speak truth and have it heard takes talent, skill and requires the willingness to engage in a real dialogue. None of us have the corner on truth. So being able to explore with someone else will help both individuals have a better understanding of the situation and create some new space for win win solutions. Ideas and tips? I’ve got lots and they work! But they don’t work if you try to fake it. You have to be genuinely willing to accept that YOU have to be willing to listen and learn as well when you want another person to listen and learn.

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