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One of my favorites sayings (not sure who to attribute it to):
“Who you are speaks so loudly, I can hardly hear a word you are saying”
When you have nothing to prove and are acting out of sheer joy, interest, kindness and support – you end up making a far bigger impact than you could ever try to make. Think about that the next time you are trying to create a change at your place of work, home or in a relationship.
(note: I edited the quote after I published this….had the first part wrong)
Think about the five people you spend the most time with right now. That is what you will become. Your personal and professional achievements and attitudes will be shaped by these five people. Choose wisely.
If you spend your time hanging around people who have a poor work ethic, no goals and a “woe is me” attitude, that is what you will inherit. If you spend your days with people who make excuses why things aren’t going their way. Why luck never shines on them. Why life is so hard. Why success is so fleeting and had to grasp. That is what will come your way.
On the flip side, if you spend your time with people who have a positive outlook, work hard and carry a mind-set that their future is the result of their actions and intentions; that is what you will inherit. You will see that excuses are the easy way out and stop making then. You will see that luck frequents the prepared not the lucky. You will find that even in hardship there is beauty and learning to be had. You will see that success shines on everyone, you just have to be still enough to notice. You will find all this and more coming your way.
Friends are hard to find. Good friends even harder. Think about who you spend your time with. Are their attitudes and intentions in line with how you want to live your life? If not, you owe it to yourself to keep looking.
For every person you meet who has a clear goal and direction for some aspect of their life, there are another 9 who are going through life aimlessly.
This is not to say that they may not be successful, happy or fulfilled. It is just to point out that not everyone lives a purpose-driven life.
Life just happens, and people seem to make the best of it.
I see this often in my workplace, with very few having any sense of where they would like their careers to head, just taking it day by day and hoping for the best. I also see it in the gym and in the yoga studio, where people just go through the motions, making little progress.
If you were going on a grand voyage….the biggest and most massive adventure (as one might use as a metaphor for life which is the grandest adventure of all) would you not at least start with a purpose?
When I get in my car, no matter where I am going, I at least have some sense of why I am in the car and where I would like to end up. If I didn’t have any idea, I would not get in the car to begin with! On the occasion (rarely) when I just drive around aimlessly, even that is done on purpose.
Why then don’t people take the time to consider what the purpose for their own lives are? This could be a simple purpose for their job, their family-caring and home life, their fitness plan, yoga practice, etc.
If I ask a half dozen people on the street to clearly state at least 1 goal in their life right now, I doubt any would be able to do so.
A purpose can even change over time. It does not need to be “right.” The point is to just have one. Why? Well, here are five reasons why I feel it is critical to have a purpose driven life:
- If you are not growing you are dying. Without progress in some aspect of your life, you are not just staying still, but regressing. When you understand the reality of this world and that all living things are slowly evolving, you are either evolving yourself or falling behind.
- Harness the untapped potential of your brain. The brain is a deletion machine. Of the millions of pieces of information that your brain captures in each day, it doesn’t keep everything. As I wrote in my post about vision boards, having a goal helps you focus your brain to notice things that will serve you in the pursuit of your goals. There is massive power in this, and takes no conscious effort on your part.
- Inspire the people you care about most. Achievement isn’t just about you. As you focus and work towards a goal, you’ll see that your efforts will in turn inspire others to look inward and cultivate their own character and ambitions. They say actions speak louder than works and your own purpose-driven actions will indeed speak volumes and influence those you care about in a positive manner.
- It keeps negativity at bay. The more you work to towards a positive end, the more you will notice that you have far less negativity entering your life. It is simple accounting. If you are consuming your thoughts, feeling and actions with energy directed towards a positive intent, you will have fewer mental, physical and emotional cycles to spend on things that drain your body, mind and soul.
- It is incredibly fun. Yes, making progress is fun. With a clear goal and purpose that is a stretch yet achievable, you’ll notice that each day will become more fun. It’s a pleasant byproduct of a purpose-driven life.
I could go on for days writing about how important it is to have a purpose-driven life. Remember, it is not so critical to figure out your overall and grand purpose for being on this planet! What matter most is to just focus on one thing (or a few things) that you feel is a positive and motivating ambition. It can be related to your family, body, finances, career, etc.
Just pick something, focus on it daily, work towards it sincerely, and watch what happens.
Don’t worry so much about the end, that is to say, don’t worry about the outcome. Just keep working towards the goal with confidence and see what manifests in your life. You’ll be amazed at the results, even if they end being something that you didn’t quite expect.